Friday, September 28, 2007

怎樣作好的見證

我經常覺得很難在家人的面前作好的見證。
有不少在家中的事使我很困擾,例如我家的餐桌,最多只可以放一個大湯碗,其他地方都放滿了不知名的膠袋和紙袋。我趁在今天垃圾收集日把多餘的袋丟掉。
今天大清早,我姐姐問我把寫有「Thank You」的膠袋放到那裏,我把事實的全部說出。當她發現垃圾已被收了,她便開始大罵,問我為甚麼沒有問過她就丟掉她的膠袋,她只是未得閑收拾而已。
一連串的為甚麼我都無言以對,但是我還是不明白:
一、放在桌上多日的膠袋代表對你重要嗎?如果我覺得重要的,我一定會第一時間收好它。
二、得閑才會做的事是永遠不會做的,因為我們沒有真正得閑的時候,也代表那件事在你的優先次序是最低。
三、膠袋裏的幸運曲奇未有動過,難道你有真的看過這些膠袋嗎?
四、膠袋上有你的名字嗎?
每天回到家中,有一種不能形容的depression。你有沒有想過,家中一半以上的公用地方已經放滿了你的物品,在家中是沒有可能舒舒服服看電視或者是吃一頓飯。如果換轉是你,你會快樂嗎?
我真的無能為力,我沒有辦法做一個好管家。

3 comments:

Sammy Cafe said...

I think God is giving you a training to be a good husband and father. You may see similar things when you become a husband. Then you will see even worse when you become a father; kids do unreasonable, unpredictable, and unpleasant things all the time.

Living with someone in the same roof is never easy. One trick I have learnt is treating them as your dear friends, including family members. This is old Chinese wisdom anyway and I realize it is true.

Imagine your friends being angry with you for doing what-ever, What will you do? Probably, say a sincere sorry. Although this friend may be unreasonable, you would apologize anyway because you see him/her as your friend. Your gentle manner will eventually change their attitude to you. I say "thank you, sorry, please" all the time at home even to my daughter. Sometimes it is not easy because we all have emotion, but I think this way will gear better family atmosphere in the long run.

Anonymous said...

If she is a friend of mine, she won't take many things for granted.

Sammy Cafe said...

That's the same thing I plea sometimes at home too. But if we do want to make the change, there is one part we can control: show we don't take things for granted first. Say thanks for little thing. Say sorry even for small mistake. It may look odds in the beginning, but hopeful this can influence everyone in the household gradually.

Actually this is kind of uncommon for Chinese family. But this is something I learnt from a non-Chinese friend and I find it very comfortable.